I’m not the best of the best, or the worst of the worst. However, life has a funny way of teaching us just how strong we really are.A: Actually doing authentic self-care habits without the noise.For those joining my blog, I’ve shared my recent story about our late child, Little Iann Ivory. He passed away, confirmed fetal demise, and we birthed him on October 19th. It was a lot to process because I went for so long with a dead child inside of me; we didn’t know what was going on until our followup ultrasound appointment. It took some time to process everything, but I had to do it the right way. I love casual drinking, consuming THC edibles, and spending an ample amount of time with my family. While some people do not see this as a form of self-care, I'm here to say it is. I do this in moderation, for sure when the kids are asleep in bed. After turning off their kiddish shows, I'll pull the covers up close to my head and play my favorite MOBA game while listening to music. This is another form of self-care, because you're doing something you like to do. Some people feel spending time with family, shopping, or stress cleaning is a form of self-care. When you take care of yourself, you're only focusing on the obvious healthy aspects of getting well, but the mental process of getting back to normal as close as you mentally, emotionally, and physically can. It is okay to step away from the noise and rediscover your inner Zen. B: It is okay to move fast some days, slow the other days.The next coping habit I use while going through this tough time is rediscovering my energy levels. It's usually on point, but I still have some off-the-wall days where I cry in the bed quietly or hide in the bathroom for two hours thinking about our son. When we came home from the hospital, I started rearranging our house starting with the farthest bedroom. My husband was extremely kind to keep the kids out of my way as I reorganized everything, shifting the furniture around, and scrubbed the floors and grimy corners. It took almost eight hours to complete everything, but it was well worth it. After the massive cleaning session, I felt time and depression creep up behind me overnight. It took three days to pull myself out of the darkness, but with the help from my loving husband and supportive mother, I managed to pull through smoothly. Listen to your body, and don't rush the healing process. If you feel you can carry the world on your shoulders without help, then go with the flow. Then again, if you can sense today's not the best day to feel positive, then slow it down and be at rest. When your mind and body are at rest, you can hear and sense more things within your area. This can help you process your loss and discover personal and healthier ways to move forward in your life. C: It's okay to taco 'bout it (or not).
My husband and I set time to talk about how we felt, and the next steps to move forward as a couple. This is great for those needing a chance to really vocalize what happened before moving forward in their lives. No, it will not be easy, regardless if you have someone with you or not, but it is normal to do this. Of course, some people are not willing to taco 'bout their emotions. That's also fine, so long as you practice reasonable self-care habits and routines. Sometimes it is best to keep certain skeletons hidden in the closet away from those who do not need to know. Always remember, you do have someone who's willing to listen to you until you're blue in the face. ConclusionIt is normal to do things differently after discovering you lost your beautiful child. There are so many more questions I want to ask about cystic hygromas, why are they so rare during pregnancy, and what can we do to help our children during the developing process. However, it is also important to accept that this has happened and I have to move on, just like our son when he passed away in the womb. If you're dealing with an abnormal pregnancy, approach it and yourself with kindness and authority. Many pregnant women are not represented well during this critical time. With or without support, always remember you're not a bad parent and it is not your fault at all! In many situations, this is an unfortunate hiccup we have to deal with in nature. To view the complete blog post, visit Personal ways to cope with an abnormal pregnancy via Medium.
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